My Wife Won’t Stop the Affair. How Do I Save My Marriage?

Marriage Questions & Answers

Jason* wrote in to say:

“First all, huge thanks for what you are doing. My marriage is still in trouble, and it’s even getting worse and worse. But thanks to your podcasts, I’m more ready to forgive and to accept my wife after her infidelity disclosure.

The question is as follows. How do I fight for my marriage and my family (there are children) and my wife while she’s undecided to stay or to leave as she feels in love with her affair mate?

She’s saying she can’t imagine to be my wife anymore while she can’t imagine losing me as a father of our children and part of the family. In other words, she wants to do life together, but not as husband and wife…”

Listen to the podcast episode to see what Caleb had to say to Jason.

*name changed for confidentiality reasons

How Can I Help My Wife Be More Trusting?

Marriage Questions & Answers

Joshua* writes:

My wife and I started dating, got married the next year, had our first child a year later, and then our second child the following year. Around the same time as our second child was born, an ex-girlfriend texted me.

Conversations started as just “Hey, how’s life?” but quickly escalated to sexting as we used to do when we dated. Right before I could tell my wife, she saw the texts and got very upset. I had already ended communications with this girl and just couldn’t strike up the nerve to tell my wife what I had done.

Fast forward a couple months and we had been through about a month of counselling session. Things were getting better between us and then I had to go on a business trip. I had a few friends I had planned on meeting with while there, but there was one in particular my wife was not comfortable with me talking to. So I told her I wouldn’t meet with that friend, but I lied. She later found out and again had to start mending our relationship.

Things have been going pretty well, except now I have a week long business trip coming up and she keeps bringing up the past issues. I know what I’ve done and how I’ve messed up, but she keeps bringing it up. I ask her not to because it still hurts so bad, but she does anyways. What can I do in this next month or so in order to help build her trust again and help her to stop bringing up my past mistakes?

Listen to the podcast episode for Caleb’s answer!

*Name has been changed for confidentiality reasons

Hectic Life + Happily Married: Is It Possible?

The common perception is that you can be super busy OR happily married. What we wanted to know is if you could be super busy AND happily married. Do you need to change your lifestyles, or are you good to go? No pressure!


If Your Spouse Is Too Jealous

Jealousy. This can drive some people absolutely nuts – and their spouse feels completely justified.

It’s a real conundrum. And it’s particularly worse when the jealous spouse has had prior reason to become jealous — a betrayal has occurred.

What does a person do?

Jealous gossip man watching his wife mobile phone

In A Sexless Marriage?

If your marriage is sexless, there is a way back to rekindling intimacy. It’s not easy, but it might not be as impossible as you think, either! We’ll help you understand some potential causes and then give you some direction to start point your marriage relationship back towards the wonder and joy of sex.

Dead tree in Dead Vlei - Sossusvlei, Namib desert, Namibia

Is My Marriage Beyond Recovery?

We know for some of you, this episode is going to be a tough one. We’re going to speak the truth in love because we’re committed to integrity, but at the same time we want to give you hope because this IS hope, and recovery of your marriage IS possible.


Why You’re Not Getting Enough Sex and What To Do About It

If you’re some creepy dude reading this to try to extract more pleasure from your wife – go away. This is not about exploitation.

But, if you’re a husband or wife who wants more physical intimacy, and you’re committed to the growth and overall health of your marriage, then you’re


10 Sure-Fire Ways To Make Time For Each Other in a Crazy Busy Marriage

Life is super busy.

We get that.

Rather than focussing on the hopelessness of the ‘busy’ problem, why not take the time you do have and make the most of it?

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How to Create More Intimacy in Your Marriage

If you really want to build more intimacy in your marriage – and who wouldn’t??? – here are four ways to do that. Take the time to hear, and digest this.


Codependency in Marriage: What It Is and What To Do About It

Codependency is a term that gets thrown around a lot. What’s a little freaky about it is that we all have a touch of this in our lives.

We’re not here to put people in buckets, but to help you make sense of the world around you. If codependency is part of your world, here is some great advice on how to shift to a healthier place in your marriage.