Online Marriage Counseling
We Can Help You
A Proven Approach to Helping Distressed Marriages
We are a specialized team of therapists who help committed Christian couples create thriving, passionate marriages. Where other online counseling businesses offer untested approaches and expansive teams of anonymous helpers extending a broad scope of services, we have chosen to provide tested, proven, marriage-focused methods using only hand-picked masters-level therapists.
OnlyYouForever is ready to support your efforts to rebuild, recover or renew your marriage.
Effective Help For Your Marriage
Our Masters-level marriage therapists have specialized training in Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy, one of just a handful of empirically-validated approaches to helping distressed marriages. We work with you from a Bible-based value system to help you:
We Help Couples Through Many Issues
With decades of collective experience, there isn't much our team of qualified therapists have not seen. Also, we stay up to date on current research and best practices through continuing education and ongoing research for our marriage podcast (currently over 1M downloads!).
How Online Marriage Counseling Works
Online marriage counseling is the best choice if you want a direct, effective approach to improving your marital satisfaction. In fact, it offers a number of advantages over driving every week to a counseling office:
Save Time and Energy
No Commute or Need to Find Parking
No Awkward Waiting Room
Secure, Private Video Link
Who Are We?
We are a close-knit team of up-to-date, professional Christian therapists committed to helping you rebuild and recover your marriage. We promise to help you feel heard and acknowledged through our structured process, no matter the distress that brings you to therapy. Creating secure, lasting bonds by increasing security, closeness and connection is our goal.
Jesse Schellenberg, MAMFT, RCC
Jesse's is a an outstanding marriage therapist who also teaches counseling skills to therapists in training. He also works with individuals in trauma and addiction.
Caleb Simonyi-Gindele, MAMFT, RCC, CSAT Candidate
Caleb is our Director and co-hosts The Marriage Podcast for Smart People with over 1,000,000 downloads. He has been helping marriages for over 10 years.
Sharon Snooks, SSW, RSSW
Sharon is a caring, compassionate therapist who connects readily with both young and mature adults. She has a special gift for helping people recover from trauma, including betrayed partners.
How Do We Get Started?
Let's jump on a quick, 15 minute video call. It'll give you a chance to experience the online video counseling experience and will give us the opportunity to get to know you a little better and ensure we're the right fit for you. You'll speak with our Clinical Director, Caleb Simonyi-Gindele. You can come alone or both you and your spouse can join the consultation: whatever works best for you.
Our Counseling Style
Our style is to be very gentle and empathic when you are sharing painful moments. We help spouses who typically withdraw to face and openly speak about what matters to them. And we help spouses who typically pursue (or attack) to learn how to approach their beloved softly with their need to be seen, heard and known.
After starting with an assessment of how your marriage is doing and learning about your shared history, we follow a proven three stage approach:
- Cycle De-escalation: assess and identify your unique relationship cycle and reveal the underlying emotions and needs. We validate those needs.
- Bonding: we assist each of you with reconnecting with your own needs and coach you towards promoting acceptance between yourselves to create emotional engagement.
- Consolidation: our therapist will guide you towards independently creating new solutions to old problems and developing new ways of relating.
And then we launch you! Our process is also finite: we believe that successful marriage counseling creates couples who know how to handle whatever life throws at them -- without their therapist! Of course, if you need a checkup session in the future or want help on a specific matter we can do that, but our couples leave the course of therapy with all the tools they need to navigate conflict, life-transitions, parenting issues, in-law problems, and so on.
Who Will My Counselor Be?
Our marriage counselors are very carefully selected therapists: they are hired from Masters level Marriage & Family Therapy programs with training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT). Many of our clients come to us after unsuccessful engagements with other therapists, and we have found this educational development to be an ideal combination of training and experience.
If you would like to choose one of our counselors specifically, you may do so. Otherwise, we'll make a professional assessment of your situation and recommend the Associate who is best suited to helping you. If you have certain preferences (e.g., for a female therapist or someone with a particular specialty) we are almost always able to accommodate these requests and also get you started in therapy promptly.
All of our therapists are trained professionals, licensed with their professional college or registering body, and up to date on current best practices in helping recover, rebuild and renew your marriage!
Does insurance cover online marriage counseling?
No, insurance usually does not cover any form of marriage counseling. Sorry!
What if my spouse doesn't want to come to counseling with me?
That's a tough spot to be in. There's a lot of reasons why some people are reluctant to come to marriage counselling. We would recommend gently exploring those reasons with your spouse. Aim for understanding rather than just trying to convince him or her. Often there's some fear(s) in behind the reluctance, and when that fear is acknowledged and support is extended they may be willing to try it out.
For more help in this challenging situation, please see our post entitled How to Get Your Husband (or Wife) Into Marriage Counseling. It's a genuine, non-sneaky approach to this challenge.
Also, if they are sitting on the fence it may help to listen to our episode on How Marriage Counseling Works.
Is virtual marriage counseling for everyone?
No, our approach is contraindicated (not recommended) for situations where abuse and/or domestic violence is part of the marriage. If you find yourself in this situation, please get in touch and we will be happy to help counsel you through this very difficult situation. However, we cannot help you restore your marriage until the abusive mindset has changed to a positive, conflict-solving mindset.
As well, once in a blue moon we do run across a couple where the Internet in their area is just not robust enough to support a decent video call. Don't worry, though, most basic DSL or cable Internet packages are just fine. We tend to have issues more when using cellular Internet or satellite-based Internet connections.
Do you do other kinds of counseling or help with other issues?
Yes! While our marriage therapists really do specialize in that field, they are also able to help with a variety of other family and personal issues. Also, we employ other therapists who do not do marriage recovery, but help spouses with specific issues such as trauma, childhood sexual abuse, betrayal trauma, etc.
If you tell us a little about yourself via a 15 minute consultation, we will make sure you see the team member who is best equipped to help you. And if we are not the right people to help, we will definitely point you in the right direction and provide referrals to other qualified therapists.