Online Marriage Counseling

We Can Help You

A Proven Approach to Helping Distressed Marriages

We are a specialized team of therapists who help committed Christian couples create thriving, passionate marriages. Where other online counseling businesses offer untested approaches and expansive teams of anonymous helpers extending a broad scope of services, we have chosen to provide tested, proven, marriage-focused methods using only hand-picked masters-level therapists.

OnlyYouForever is ready to support your efforts to rebuild, recover or renew your marriage.

Effective Help For Your Marriage

Our Masters-level marriage therapists have specialized training in Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy, one of just a handful of empirically-validated approaches to helping distressed marriages. We work with you from a Bible-based value system to help you:

  • Stop fighting and start understanding one another
  • Improve communication and conflict resolution skills
  • Increase emotional and sexual intimacy
  • Solve problems that you have been stuck on "forever"
  • Connect deeply through affordable, weekly sessions that continue for months, not years

We Help Couples Through Many Issues

With decades of collective experience, there isn't much our team of qualified therapists have not seen. Also, we stay up to date on current research and best practices through continuing education and ongoing research for our marriage podcast (currently over 1M downloads!). 

  • Infidelity & other forms of betrayal
  • Pornography and/or sex addiction
  • Communication problems and ongoing conflict
  • Wanting to save your marriage but other attempts have failed
  • Conflicting values or priorities

How Online Marriage Counseling Works

Online marriage counseling is the best choice if you want a direct, effective approach to improving your marital satisfaction. In fact, it offers a number of advantages over driving every week to a counseling office:

Save Time and Energy

No Commute or Need to Find Parking

No Awkward Waiting Room

Secure, Private Video Link


Who Are We?

We are  a close-knit team of up-to-date, professional Christian therapists committed to helping you rebuild and recover your marriage. We promise to help you feel heard and acknowledged through our structured process, no matter the distress that brings you to therapy. Creating secure, lasting bonds by increasing security, closeness and connection is our goal.

Jesse Schellenberg, MAMFT, RCC

Jesse's is a an outstanding marriage therapist who also teaches counseling skills to therapists in training. He also works with individuals in trauma and addiction.

Caleb Simonyi-Gindele

Caleb Simonyi-Gindele, MAMFT, RCC, CSAT Candidate

Caleb is our Director and co-hosts The Marriage Podcast for Smart People with over 1,000,000 downloads. He has been helping marriages for over 10 years.

Sharon Snooks

Sharon Snooks, SSW, RSSW

Sharon is a caring, compassionate therapist who connects readily with both young and mature adults. She has a special gift for helping people recover from trauma, including betrayed partners.

How Do We Get Started?

Let's jump on a quick, 15 minute video call. It'll give you a chance to experience the online video counseling experience and will give us the opportunity to get to know you a little better and ensure we're the right fit for you. You'll speak with our Clinical Director, Caleb Simonyi-Gindele. You can come alone or both you and your spouse can join the consultation: whatever works best for you.

Our Counseling Style

Our style is to be very gentle and empathic when you are sharing painful moments. We help spouses who typically withdraw to face and openly speak about what matters to them. And we help spouses who typically pursue (or attack) to learn how to approach their beloved softly with their need to be seen, heard and known.

After starting with an assessment of how your marriage is doing and learning about your shared history, we follow a proven three stage approach:

  1. Cycle De-escalation: assess and identify your unique relationship cycle and reveal the underlying emotions and needs. We validate those needs.
  2. Bonding: we assist each of you with reconnecting with your own needs and coach you towards promoting acceptance between yourselves to create emotional engagement.
  3. Consolidation: our therapist will guide you towards independently creating new solutions to old problems and developing new ways of relating.

And then we launch you! Our process is also finite: we believe that successful marriage counseling creates couples who know how to handle whatever life throws at them -- without their therapist! Of course, if you need a checkup session in the future or want help on a specific matter we can do that, but our couples leave the course of therapy with all the tools they need to navigate conflict, life-transitions, parenting issues, in-law problems, and so on.

Who Will My Counselor Be?

Our marriage counselors are very carefully selected therapists: they are hired from Masters level Marriage & Family Therapy programs with training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT). Many of our clients come to us after unsuccessful engagements with other therapists, and we have found this educational development to be an ideal combination of training and experience. 

If you would like to choose one of our counselors specifically, you may do so. Otherwise, we'll make a professional assessment of your situation and recommend the Associate who is best suited to helping you. If you have certain preferences (e.g., for a female therapist or someone with a particular specialty) we are almost always able to accommodate these requests and also get you started in therapy promptly. 

All of our therapists are trained professionals, licensed with their professional college or registering body, and up to date on current best practices in helping recover, rebuild and renew your marriage!

FAQ

Does insurance cover online marriage counseling?

What if my spouse doesn't want to come to counseling with me?

Is virtual marriage counseling for everyone?

Do you do other kinds of counseling or help with other issues?