Online Marriage Counseling
We Can Help You
A Proven Approach to Helping Distressed Marriages
When your marriage is in troubled waters, you feel like your whole world is in jeopardy. It is an incredibly distressing, unsettling, anxious place to be in. That's why it is so important that you find the best help when you are looking for a marriage counselor.
We are a specialized team of Christian therapists who help couples create thriving, passionate marriages. Where other online counseling businesses offer untested approaches and expansive teams of anonymous helpers extending a broad scope of services, we have chosen to provide tested, proven, marriage-focused methods using only hand-picked therapists who have chosen to specialize in helping people rebuild, renew and recover their marriages.
Effective Help For Your Marriage
Our Masters-level marriage therapists have specialized training in Emotionally Focussed Couples Therapy, one of just a handful of empirically-validated approaches to helping distressed marriages. We work with you from a Bible-based value system to help you:
We Help Couples Through Many Issues
With decades of collective experience, there isn't much our team of qualified therapists have not seen. Also, we stay up to date on current research and best practices through continuing education and ongoing research for our marriage podcast (currently over 1M downloads!).
How Online Marriage Counseling Works
Online marriage counseling is the best choice if you want a direct, effective approach to improving your marital satisfaction. In fact, it offers a number of advantages over driving every week to a counseling office:
Save Time and Energy
No Commute or Need to Find Parking
No Awkward Waiting Room
Secure, Private Video Link
Who Are We?
We are a close-knit team of up-to-date, professional Christian therapists committed to helping you rebuild and recover your marriage. We promise to help you feel heard and acknowledged through our structured process, no matter the distress that brings you to therapy. Creating secure, lasting bonds by increasing security, closeness and connection is our goal.
Jesse Schellenberg, MAMFT, RCC
Jesse's is an outstanding marriage therapist who also teaches counseling skills to therapists in training. He also works with individuals in trauma and addiction.
Caleb Simonyi-Gindele, MAMFT, RCC, CSAT Candidate
Caleb is our Director and co-hosts The Marriage Podcast for Smart People with over 1,000,000 downloads. He has been helping marriages for over 10 years.
Mike Takkinen, MA, CPC, CSAT
Mike is not only very effective in helping couples improve their marriage, but he also specializes in helping couples recover from the very difficult challenges of sex addiction.
How Do We Get Started?
The best way to get started is through a quick, 15 minute video call. It'll give you a chance to experience the online video counseling experience and will give us the opportunity to get to know you a little better and ensure we're the right fit for you. You'll speak with our Clinical Director, Caleb Simonyi-Gindele. You can come alone or both you and your spouse can join the consultation: whatever works best for you.
Our Counseling Style
Our style is to be very gentle and empathic when you are sharing painful moments. We help spouses who typically withdraw to face and openly speak about what matters to them. And we help spouses who typically pursue (or attack) to learn how to approach their beloved softly with their need to be seen, heard and known.
After starting with an assessment of how your marriage is doing and learning about your shared history, we follow a proven three stage approach:
- Cycle De-escalation: assess and identify your unique relationship cycle and reveal the underlying emotions and needs. We validate those needs.
- Bonding: we assist each of you with reconnecting with your own needs and coach you towards promoting acceptance between yourselves to create emotional engagement.
- Consolidation: our therapist will guide you towards independently creating new solutions to old problems and developing new ways of relating.
And then we launch you! Our process is also finite: we believe that successful marriage counseling creates couples who know how to handle whatever life throws at them -- without their therapist! Of course, if you need a checkup session in the future or want help on a specific matter we can do that, but our couples leave the course of therapy with all the tools they need to navigate conflict, life-transitions, parenting issues, in-law problems, and so on.
Who Will My Counselor Be?
Our marriage counselors are very carefully selected therapists: they are hired from Masters level Marriage & Family Therapy programs with training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT). Many of our clients come to us after unsuccessful engagements with other therapists and we have found our team members' educational and professional development to be an ideal combination of training and experience.
If you would like to choose one of our counselors specifically, you may do so. Otherwise, we'll make a professional assessment of your situation and recommend the Associate who is best suited to helping you. If you have certain preferences (e.g., for a female therapist or someone with a particular specialty) we are almost always able to accommodate these requests and also get you started in therapy promptly.
All of our therapists are trained professionals, licensed with their professional college or registering body, and up to date on current best practices in helping recover, rebuild and renew your marriage!
What Does It Cost?
Counseling sessions are about one hour in length and cost $150 (plus tax, where applicable). If you prefer, you can expedite the process through 90 minute sessions ($225 + tax).
Counseling is a significant investment, but the best way to think about it is to remember that on average a person loses 77% of their net worth when they divorce. Not only that, but a divorce is not just a fire exit: it is an incredibly painful, heart-rending event. We'd like to help you avoid that and so we recommend you take a close look at how you may be able to reorganize your family budget for a few months in order to make room for weekly counseling sessions. This is the kind of thing that is even worth putting long-term savings on hold for.
Does insurance cover online marriage counseling?
No, insurance usually does not cover any form of marriage counseling. Sorry!
What if my spouse doesn't want to come to counseling with me?
That's a tough spot to be in. There's a lot of reasons why some people are reluctant to come to marriage counselling. We would recommend gently exploring those reasons with your spouse. Aim for understanding rather than just trying to convince him or her. Often there's some fear(s) in behind the reluctance, and when that fear is acknowledged and support is extended they may be willing to try it out.
For more help in this challenging situation, please see our post entitled How to Get Your Husband (or Wife) Into Marriage Counseling. It's a genuine, non-sneaky approach to this challenge.
Also, if they are sitting on the fence it may help to listen to our episode on How Marriage Counseling Works.
Is virtual marriage counseling for everyone?
No, our approach is contraindicated (not recommended) for situations where abuse and/or domestic violence is part of the marriage. If you find yourself in this situation, please get in touch and we will be happy to help counsel you through this very difficult situation. However, we cannot help you restore your marriage until the abusive mindset has changed to a positive, conflict-solving mindset.
As well, once in a blue moon we do run across a couple where the Internet in their area is just not robust enough to support a decent video call. Don't worry, though, most basic DSL or cable Internet packages are just fine. We tend to have issues more when using cellular Internet or satellite-based Internet connections.
Do you do other kinds of counseling or help with other issues?
Yes! While our marriage therapists really do specialize in that field, they are also able to help with a variety of other family and personal issues. Also, we employ other therapists who do not do marriage recovery, but help spouses with specific issues such as trauma, childhood sexual abuse, betrayal trauma, etc.
If you tell us a little about yourself via a 15 minute consultation, we will make sure you see the team member who is best equipped to help you. And if we are not the right people to help, we will definitely point you in the right direction and provide referrals to other qualified therapists.