Sex Addiction Counseling

Break the grip of sex addiction to restore trust and healthy intimacy in your life.

Sex Addiction

Has sex become a game to you? A conquest? Or a compulsion? Maybe you’re turning to sex to avoid dealing with difficult emotions.

Sex addiction leads you to feel like you’ve lost control of your body and your sex life entirely. Like you can’t live without it. 

Are you keeping your addiction a secret from your spouse or your family, living in fear of being discovered?


It’s easy to go from hiding a secret to hiding from those you love. 

Maybe your spouse knows about the addiction, and you are both in the turmoil of trying to figure out how you got to this place and where to go for help. 

Or perhaps you are a young adult who is battling an addiction alone.

No matter where you are in the addiction cycle, there is hope, even if you’re feeling stuck and broken by an addiction that feels unbeatable. Help is available.

At OnlyYouForever, we help individuals, couples, and families break the cycle of addiction, providing help and support as we guide you through a healing journey to recover from the shame, guilt, and negative self-esteem surrounding your addiction. 

Our Reliable 5-Step Process

  1. Assess the addiction: We'll begin with a thorough history of the addiction, look at co-occurring addictions, and examine your family history for patterns of addiction. You may also choose to complete detailed, professional assessments.
  2. Establish Sobriety: We'll help you set up barriers to acting out again to create a safety net against slips and relapses.
  3. Complete a Disclosure: If you are in a relationship, you will work with your therapist to set up a formal disclosure. This is a facilitated, thoughfully prepared and supported process where you provide your spouse a fully, honest account of your acting out behaviors.
  4. Examine Fantasies: Learn the deeper meaning behind the fantasies you are drawn to and acting out. This work reveals the roots of the addiction: the parts most in need of healing so that you can bring yourself to your marriage or family relationships as a loyal, committed person.
  5. Healthy Intimacy: We'll help you heal attachment wounds and trauma so that you can build healthy, authentic and wholesome connections with the people that matter most to you, including making amends where necessary.

With decades of collective experience, there isn't much our team of qualified therapists have not seen. We also stay up-to-date on research and best practices through continuing education and ongoing research for our marriage podcast (currently over 2 million downloads!).

So what IS sex addiction?

  • Loss of control over your actions
  • Failed efforts to stop
  • Loss of time to your addiction
  • Preoccupation with sex and sexual thoughts
  • Inability to fulfill obligations due to your addiction
  • Continuation in the addiction despite negative consequences
  • Escalation: behavior continually getting more extreme to satisfy cravings

Our Comprehensive Approach

At OnlyYouForever, our team works with all three "legs of the stool." 

The betrayal of sex addiction is so profound that the only way to find real healing for couples who wish to save their marriage is to treat all three legs of the stool:

  1. 1
    The Addict: must own his or her addiction and recovery and the impact this has had on loved ones.
  2. 2
    The Partner: must process his or her betrayal trauma and re-integrate their shattered beliefs about the addict and themselves.
  3. 3
    The Marriage: initially we focus on crisis management and restoring stability after discovery or disclosure. When both partners are ready, we work on healing the bond broken by addiction and creating a new and authentic bond. We do not force couples to stay married (especially when it is unsafe to do so), but we are pro-marriage.

Meet Your Therapists

Our team of professional Christian therapists come from Masters level Marriage & Family Therapy programs. We have specialized training in sex addiction, with both Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapists on our team. We are committed to helping you rebuild and recover your marriage if you wish to do so, and promise to help you feel heard and acknowledged through our structured process, no matter how severe the addiction. We all have training in empirically validated approaches to helping marriages recover from severe betrayal.

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Ricky Aguilar MAMFT, RCC
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Dianne Kuglin MA, MC, CPC, CCAC
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Jesse Schellenberg MAMFT, RCC
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Jennifer Cole MA, CCC, MACA, SEP
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Sharon Snooks SSW, RSSW
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Caleb Simonyi-Gindele MAMFT, RCC, CSAT
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Mike Takkinen MA, CPC, CSAT Candidate

Ricky believes that unprocessed emotions are what push people apart. Since we are created for connection, disconnection leaves individuals, families, and couples feeling distant, empty and in despair. Through the integration of faith and evidenced-based psychotherapy modalities, Ricky hopes to join you in your journey of finding new, loving ways of connecting. (Hablamos español)

I use a direct approach to get to the heart of the issues or core problems and pain points so we can work together to find the best possible solutions. I use an integrative approach and believe there are a variety of ways to “do therapy” and its best to work together to find what’s best for you. Do you want immediate action steps or will it take you more time to warm up to the process? Either way, you are in the driver’s seat. My role is to walk with you and encourage you or challenge you in a way that will help you grow.

Jesse is a graduate of the Marriage and Family therapy program at ACTS seminary and a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. Jesse specializes in couples’ therapy, pornography addiction, and individuals with trauma. Jesse works to create a trusting, open, and non-judgemental environment for his clients to create rewarding relationships.

My counselling style is highly relational, non-judgemental, and empathic. I work from a holistic perspective in that not only do I work with the mind and emotions, but I also work somatically (with sensation in the body). I love to work with trauma, especially developmental and complex trauma, as these are formative experiences which impact our relationships. With couples and families, I work from a family systems and somatic attachment-based paradigm.

Sharon has a variety of experience and education in the Social Services field spanning thirty years, with a focus on crisis and trauma in the past seven years. Sharon provides a safe and secure space to explore and heal, providing renewal and hope for the future. She loves working with teens as well as adults of all ages.

Caleb helps his clients find their way out of severe marital distress, trauma, betrayals, and addictions by giving them a safe, open space where they can explore and make sense of their experiences. He combines a healthy sense of humor with psychoeducation and a broad set of clinical skills to help foster personal growth and healing.

A registered counselor since 2009, Mike’s experience includes work with couples seeking to strengthen and/or rebuild their relationships and in helping individuals with issues such as addiction, anxiety, depression, and anger management. Engagement, authenticity, transparency, and collaboration are values that guide both Mike’s counselling work, and his personal life as a husband, father, and grandfather


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Sharon has a variety of experience and education in the Social Services field spanning thirty years, with a focus on crisis and trauma in the past seven years. Sharon provides a safe and secure space to explore and heal, providing renewal and hope for the future. She loves working with teens as well as adults of all ages.

Sharon Snooks SSW, RSSW


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A registered counselor since 2009, Mike’s experience includes work with couples seeking to strengthen and/or rebuild their relationships and in helping individuals with issues such as addiction, anxiety, depression, and anger management. Engagement, authenticity, transparency, and collaboration are values that guide both Mike’s counselling work, and his personal life as a husband, father, and grandfather

Mike Takkinen MA, CPC, CSAT Candidate


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Ricky believes that unprocessed emotions are what push people apart. Since we are created for connection, disconnection leaves individuals, families, and couples feeling distant, empty and in despair. Through the integration of faith and evidenced-based psychotherapy modalities, Ricky hopes to join you in your journey of finding new, loving ways of connecting. (Hablamos español)

Ricky Aguilar MAMFT, RCC


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I use a direct approach to get to the heart of the issues or core problems and pain points so we can work together to find the best possible solutions. I use an integrative approach and believe there are a variety of ways to “do therapy” and its best to work together to find what’s best for you. Do you want immediate action steps or will it take you more time to warm up to the process? Either way, you are in the driver’s seat. My role is to walk with you and encourage you or challenge you in a way that will help you grow.

Dianne Kuglin MA, MC, CPC, CCAC


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My counselling style is highly relational, non-judgemental, and empathic. I work from a holistic perspective in that not only do I work with the mind and emotions, but I also work somatically (with sensation in the body). I love to work with trauma, especially developmental and complex trauma, as these are formative experiences which impact our relationships. With couples and families, I work from a family systems and somatic attachment-based paradigm.

Jennifer Cole MA, CCC, MACA, SEP


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Jesse is a graduate of the Marriage and Family therapy program at ACTS seminary and a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. Jesse specializes in couples’ therapy, pornography addiction, and individuals with trauma. Jesse works to create a trusting, open, and non-judgemental environment for his clients to create rewarding relationships.

Jesse Schellenberg MAMFT, RCC


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Caleb helps his clients find their way out of severe marital distress, trauma, betrayals, and addictions by giving them a safe, open space where they can explore and make sense of their experiences. He combines a healthy sense of humor with psychoeducation and a broad set of clinical skills to help foster personal growth and healing.

Caleb Simonyi-Gindele MAMFT, RCC, CSAT

Benefits of Online Sex Addiction Counseling

Our online sex addiction counseling offers the proven effectiveness of in-person counseling, delivered through a private, secure Zoom video call. With it you will:

1. Save Time and Energy

2. Avoid Commute and Hassle of Finding Parking

3. Eliminate Awkward Waiting Room Time

4. Meet with your Counselor from the Location of your Choice

5. Ensure your Privacy as you Recover from a Stigmatized Addiction

With OnlyYouForever, you will:

  • Reclaim the life you’ve built with the one you love
  • Overcome shame and compulsive behaviours
  • Restore healthy forms of intimacy and trust
  • Help your marriage recover from long-kept secrets
  • Learn and restore healthy sexuality
  • Increase stability in your marriage, even after betrayal
  • Enjoy your spouse and live your best life

Ready to Get Started?

Click the button below to speak with one of our friendly, confidential receptionists. Let them know you are looking for help with sex addiction recovery and they'll help you find the right team member with availability to fit your schedule. You can call alone, or both you and your spouse can call —  whatever works best for you.

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