Porn & Sex Addiction Counseling

Escape the cycle of addiction to restore trust and healthy intimacy in your life.

Porn Addiction

Porn used to be a fun escape from reality. A little harmless fantasy, right? 

But now it’s impacting your life. Your relationship. You feel more critical of your spouse, and less satisfied with your sex life, which has you turning to porn more and more often, only increasing your guilt and shame. 

Sex Addiction

Has sex become a game to you? A conquest? Maybe you’re turning to sex to avoid dealing with difficult emotions.

It feels like you’ve lost control of your body and your sex life entirely. Like you can’t live without it. 

Are you keeping your addiction a secret from your spouse or your family, living in fear of being discovered?


It’s easy to go from hiding a secret to hiding from those you love. 

Maybe your spouse knows about the addiction, and you are both in the turmoil of trying to figure out how you got to this place and where to go for help. 

Are you a teen or young adult who is battling an addiction you’re keeping hidden from your loved ones. Or maybe your porn or sex addiction is keeping you from developing a healthy, intimate relationship with a significant other, leaving you feeling like you’ll be alone forever.

No matter where you are in the addiction cycle, there is hope, even if you’re feeling stuck and broken by an addiction that feels catastrophic. There are strategies available to heal the parts of you that are broken.

At OnlyYouForever, we can help individuals, couples, and families break the cycle of addiction, providing help and support as we guide you through a healing journey to recover from the fear, shame, guilt, and negative self-esteem surrounding your addiction.

Addictive Sexuality vs. Healthy Sexuality

Addictive Sexuality

  • Feels shameful
  • Is illicit, stolen or exploitative
  • Compromises values
  • Draws on fear for excitement
  • Reenacts childhood abuse
  • Disconnects from oneself
  • Creates a world of unreality
  • Is self-destructive and dangerous
  • Uses conquest or power
  • Serves to medicate and kill pain
  • Is dishonest or requires a double life
  • Becomes routine, grim or joyless
  • Demands perfection
  • Suffocating, demanding, clinging or disengaged

Healthy Sexuality

  • Fosters positive self-worth
  • Has no victims
  • Operates within a value system
  • Uses intimacy for excitement
  • Cultivates a sense of being an adult
  • Fosters sense of self
  • Expands reality through being in touch with the present 
  • Relies on safety
  • Is mutual, consensual, and equal
  • Fosters self-regulation of emotions
  • Originates in integrity and authenticity
  • Is spontaneous, fun and playful
  • Accepts the imperfect
  • Is respectful of boundaries, accepting and intimate 

So what IS sex/pornography addiction?

  • Loss of control over your actions
  • Compulsive behavior
  • Failed efforts to stop
  • Loss of time to your addiction
  • Preoccupation with sex and sexual thoughts
  • Inability to fulfill obligations due to your addiction
  • Continuation in the addiction despite negative consequences
  • Escalation- behavior continually getting more extreme to satisfy cravings
  • Losses due to the negative consequences of addiction
  • Withdrawal

How it works

We have a direct, proven approach to helping you break the cycle of addition. Our team includes specialized Certified Sex Addiction Therapists specifically trained in helping porn and sex addicts through proven methods. We’ll explore the factors that may be a catalyst for your behavior to help you restore trust, intimacy, and joy in your relationships.

We help people through many issues

With decades of collective experience, there isn't much our team of qualified therapists have not seen. We also stay up-to-date on research and best practices through continuing education and ongoing research for our marriage podcast (currently over 1 million downloads!).

Benefits of Online Sex Addiction Counseling

Our online porn and sex addiction recovery counseling offers the proven effectiveness of in-person counseling, delivered through a private, secure video call. With it you will:

1. Save Time and Energy

2. Avoid Commute and Hassle of Finding Parking

3. Eliminate Awkward Waiting Room Time

4. Meet with your Counselor from the Location of your Choice

5. Ensure your Privacy as you Recover from a Stigmatized Addiction

Meet Your Therapists

Our team of professional Christian therapists come from Masters level Marriage & Family Therapy programs with training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.  They are committed to helping you rebuild and recover your marriage, and promise to help you feel heard and acknowledged through our structured process, no matter the circumstances that bring you to therapy. They all have training in empirically validated approaches to helping marriages recover from infidelity. Our goal is creating secure, lasting bonds by increasing closeness and connection.

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Jesse Schellenberg MAMFT, RCC
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Caleb Simonyi-Gindele MAMFT, RCC, CSAT
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Mike Takkinen MA, CPC, CSAT Candidate
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Sharon Snooks SSW, RSSW
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Ricky Aguilar MAMFT, RCC

Jesse is a graduate of the Marriage and Family therapy program at ACTS seminary and a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. Jesse specializes in couples’ therapy, pornography addiction, and individuals with trauma. Jesse works to create a trusting, open, and non-judgemental environment for his clients to create rewarding relationships.

Caleb helps his clients find their way out of severe marital distress, trauma, betrayals, and addictions by giving them a safe, open space where they can explore and make sense of their experiences. He combines a healthy sense of humor with psychoeducation and a broad set of clinical skills to help foster personal growth and healing.

A registered counselor since 2009, Mike’s experience includes work with couples seeking to strengthen and/or rebuild their relationships and in helping individuals with issues such as addiction, anxiety, depression, and anger management. Engagement, authenticity, transparency, and collaboration are values that guide both Mike’s counselling work, and his personal life as a husband, father, and grandfather

Sharon has a variety of experience and education in the Social Services field spanning thirty years, with a focus on crisis and trauma in the past seven years. Sharon provides a safe and secure space to explore and heal, providing renewal and hope for the future. She loves working with teens as well as adults of all ages.

Ricky believes that unprocessed emotions are what push people apart. Since we are created for connection, disconnection leaves individuals, families, and couples feeling distant, empty and in despair. Through the integration of faith and evidenced-based psychotherapy modalities, Ricky hopes to join you in your journey of finding new, loving ways of connecting. (Hablamos español)


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Sharon has a variety of experience and education in the Social Services field spanning thirty years, with a focus on crisis and trauma in the past seven years. Sharon provides a safe and secure space to explore and heal, providing renewal and hope for the future. She loves working with teens as well as adults of all ages.

Sharon Snooks SSW, RSSW


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Ricky believes that unprocessed emotions are what push people apart. Since we are created for connection, disconnection leaves individuals, families, and couples feeling distant, empty and in despair. Through the integration of faith and evidenced-based psychotherapy modalities, Ricky hopes to join you in your journey of finding new, loving ways of connecting. (Hablamos español)

Ricky Aguilar MAMFT, RCC


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Caleb helps his clients find their way out of severe marital distress, trauma, betrayals, and addictions by giving them a safe, open space where they can explore and make sense of their experiences. He combines a healthy sense of humor with psychoeducation and a broad set of clinical skills to help foster personal growth and healing.

Caleb Simonyi-Gindele MAMFT, RCC, CSAT


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Jesse is a graduate of the Marriage and Family therapy program at ACTS seminary and a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) with the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors. Jesse specializes in couples’ therapy, pornography addiction, and individuals with trauma. Jesse works to create a trusting, open, and non-judgemental environment for his clients to create rewarding relationships.

Jesse Schellenberg MAMFT, RCC


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A registered counselor since 2009, Mike’s experience includes work with couples seeking to strengthen and/or rebuild their relationships and in helping individuals with issues such as addiction, anxiety, depression, and anger management. Engagement, authenticity, transparency, and collaboration are values that guide both Mike’s counselling work, and his personal life as a husband, father, and grandfather

Mike Takkinen MA, CPC, CSAT Candidate

With OnlyYouForever, you will:

  • Reclaim the life you’ve built with the one you love
  • Overcome shame and compulsive behaviours
  • Restore healthy forms of intimacy and trust
  • Help your marriage recover from long-kept secrets
  • Learn and restore healthy sexuality
  • Increase stability in your marriage, even after betrayal
  • Enjoy your spouse and live your best life

Ready to Get Started?

Click the button below to schedule a free consultation. You’ll meet with one of our therapists for a 20-minute video call that will give you a chance to experience the online counseling experience and give us the opportunity to get to know you a little better to ensure we're the right fit for you. You can come alone, or both you and your spouse can join the consultation —  whatever works best for you.

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